ADVICES FOR YOUNG PEOPLE. IS THE HUSBAND IS A MALE CHAUVINISTIC PIG?
The
wife often offers her husband certain dishes during dining when she
notices that he has ignored some dishes. Julie is a retiree Chinese lady
in her early 70s. She has been doing this over her decades of marriage.
Catherina
opened her eyes wide and said: "Why do you serve him (by placing the
fish on his plate)? He can do it by himself!". Catherina is a single
career lady in her 50s. She had lunch with an Indian friend and my wife
including me
in NEX mall on 2 April 2024 at The Sushi Tei restaurant.
"I do not ask my wife to serve me food from the dining table," the husband had explained to her many times. The Indian friend who is married with two adult kids, was surprised at her outburst.
The wife repeated this act "of love" automatically, despite the husband telling her not to do so
especially when we dine with Catherina. Her act is Catherina's hot button issue.
"All
Chinese men are MCPs (male chauvinistic pigs)." the husband had joked
with Catherina. "To you, wives should not serve food to husbands at any
time. But my wife is not forced to do it! She does it if I don't eat
certain dishes."
Chauvinism is "an attitude of
superiority toward members of the opposite sex." Catherina just could
not help herself. Nor could she change my wife's behaviour or not invite
the husband for dining. She just alienate her friend's husband by
repeating her
behaviour when she sees this "chauvinistic act".
Why not
just count her blessings? The wife cares very much for her to have lunch
together, sometimes with her retiree husband who drives her to the
dining place.
Why repeat her objection to this act when she
can't change her friend's act of love for her husband? Just overlook
this act and not comment on it. Enjoy the company. Life is short. Create
pleasant dining friendship memories.
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Chinese men are male chauvinist pigs.
chauvinism with "an attitude of superiority toward members of the opposite sex"
exhibit chauvinistic attitudes and behaviors
